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Toni's Night Out

Let them eat CAKE! & Where I’ve been?


So.. everyone has been wondering where I’ve been? Right? Hmmm how to answer this question? I guess, I’ve been busy working on my higher self. Noticing the small things, following the signs and figuring out where I belong . I guess, you can say… I’ve been learning to enjoy the silence. Deep, I know. And you wonder why I write about musicians. Because in the end.. it always comes down to passion.

To be honest.. It’s hard to put myself out there.. blog after blog… raw, unprotected and vulnerable for all the world to see. I’ve been let down. But hey, who hasn’t, right? I wear my heart on my sleeve anyway.. it’s just who I am. I’m a lover not a fighter. I have no poker face.  I speak my mind and yes, sometimes it gets me into trouble. :-/ Meh.

But don’t you go out anymore Toni? And isn’t this supposed to be a blog about the band Cake?
Well, yeah I’ve been out. I’ve seen some great shows and met some amazing people. I’ve even been out of the country.. and yes, some cool stuff has happened along the way. Stuff I don’t understand or can’t quite explain. Jesus says, “Ask, and you shall receive”, I live my life by this mantra and so far, it hasn’t failed me. It’s been said that there’s a one in 285,000 chance of meeting and making a lasting connection with someone. Those are some odds! Call it karma, quantum mechanics or the law of attraction… I dunno, I just know that things happen in life for a reason. That people come in and out of your life for a reason… to teach us lessons.

I’m not sure why, but for some reason a trip to Europe always seems to put things into perspective for me. Maybe it’s their adorable accents or their incessant politeness. Or maybe it’s the complete break down in communication? In any case, I’ve learned that I see things that other people don’t. Or maybe they see them too and reject what it is they cannot define? I’ve been going through a self awakening of sorts… or maybe it’s a global awakening? I just know that, whatever it is,  it’s bigger than me.

And yes, Cake.. be patient… I’m getting to Cake.

But, what’s this crazy talk Toni? Have you gone and become some sorta hippie or something?
Well no, of course not. I’m not that kinda girl. I don’t partake in THAT kind of green culture. (Nerd alert!) There’s a time and a place for everything.. and that’s college. And well.. I’m not in college anymore.

Anyway, I’ve learned that I’m not cool with people being lukewarm about me. Hello, I’m kind of a big deal.. uh, rock-stars know my name and stuff. (of course, I say this all in jest, with my best Beavis & Butthead voice .. sort of) I’ve also learned that life is way too short to worry about who “gets me” and who doesn’t. But maybe, I should be more tolerant of the ones who can’t yet see the things I do. I’ve become aware of the synchronicity’s. I notice “coincidence”.. and realize that I don’t believe in coincidence at all. Ask, and you shall receive. You’ll be amazed at how fast the universe will shift to give you exactly what you need. And if certain things or people are meant to be in your life than somehow they will. So I don’t think that everything is too much to ask for. Do you? Make choices without fear and manifest your destiny. And if you’re lucky.. you live your life without any regret.

Ok… let me bring you back up to speed. Lately, I just haven’t felt very inspired to write about how hot.. umm er I mean, ahem.. cough.. cough, how great the music is of certain Rock-stars. Not to say that this past summer wasn’t awesome trying to jump on stage with Jared Leto & 30 Seconds to Mars or that I didn’t love every minute of getting hugs and kisses from Dean DeLeo of The Stone Temple Pilots … and ahem, yes, for the record, he does know my name.

Oh but there were also those creepy, stalker-y type emails I was getting for awhile, which totally spooked me! Ick! (not exactly the passion I’m looking for) And let’s not forget I was sick with that nasty cough & flu for more than a month! Thank God that’s all over with and so now, I’m taking back my power.

So Cake, the band? How do they tie into all of this?

Some of you are saying Cake, awesome! While still a few of you are wondering what lil Toni has baked up this time? (they don’t call me Betty Rocker for nothin)
I’m a domestic goddess. C’mon, I’m freakin adorable… admit it.
Cake played on December 7th, 2010 at The Fillmore in Irving Plaza, in the heart of Union Square, NYC. As I walked through the city excited to get to the show I reflected on this past year and all that I’ve learned… uh.. haven’t we established I’m deep yet?
Anyhoots, they opened the show with the song “Building a Religion” check out the video I so stealthily shot.
I think it’s about the New World Order or something very conspiratory, political and dark.. it’s all very interpretive like everything else they sing about.. but they say cool stuff like : “today is tomorrow and tomorrow is today and yesterday is weaving in and out..” Somehow I think this band really “gets me!”
Seeing them live is Uber fun! Even as a fan you will be surprised at how many of their hits you didn’t realize that you loved. Not to mention they are not shy about busting out the trumpets, maraca’s or the cowbell! Did someone say “More Cowbell Please!” Hallelujah! 

I know what you’re thinking.. Toni this singer looks sorta homeless to me.. Now I’ll admit looks wise there is no “swoon” situation happening here.. Toni but you like scruffy, Irish guys, don’t you? Weren’t you just in Ireland? Yes It’s true, singer John McCrea is Irish and scruffy. Sadly, that’s not always enough to make a girl swoon. What? Did you think I was shallow? Far from it people. In this case at least.. it’s definitely all about the music. The lyrics are brilliant and really seem to resonate with me… his voice is dead pan, but unique. Their performance and general kick-ass awesomeness makes them a band not to be missed. Again, it comes down to passion. (ok ok, the blonde is easy on the eyes)

Their latest hit is called “Sick of You”
And it goes like this: “I’m so sick of you, so sick of me. I don’t want to be with you. I want to fly away”. Catchy.. isn’t it?
Admittedly, there have been times when I’ve felt exactly this way. Boys… sigh. 🙁

Some of you will remember Cake, the band,  for their biggest hit “The Distance” from 1994. The fact that this song with it’s double entendre lyrics has been the topic of many a discussion and open to several different interpretations  is part of the charm. The lyrics have been paralleled with everything from lost love, drug addiction, climbing the corporate ladder and my favorite interpretation.. Good ol’ Masturbation. LOL.
However, some still believe the song is simply about a sporting event. Duh, Not very insightful. :-/
Read the lyrics and decide for yourself:
“The Distance”
Reluctantly crouched at the starting line, Engines pumping and thumping in time.
The green light flashes, the flags go up. Churning and burning, they yearn for the cup.
They deftly maneuver and muscle for rank, Fuel burning fast on an empty tank.
Reckless and wild, they pour through the turns. Their prowess is potent and secretly stearn.
As they speed through the finish, the flags go down. The fans get up and they get out of town.
The arena is empty except for one man, Still driving and striving as fast as he can.
The sun has gone down and the moon has come up, And long ago somebody left with the cup.
But he’s driving and striving and hugging the turns. And thinking of someone for whom he still burns.
He’s going the distance. He’s going for speed. She’s all alone In her time of need.
Because he’s racing and pacing and plotting the course, He’s fighting and biting and riding on his horse,
He’s going the distance.
No trophy, no flowers, no flashbulbs, no wine, He’s haunted by something he cannot define.
Bowel-shaking earthquakes of doubt and remorse, Assail him, impale him with monster-truck force.
In his mind, he’s still driving, still making the grade. She’s hoping in time that her memories will fade.
Cause he’s racing and pacing and plotting the course, He’s fighting and biting and riding on his horse.
The sun has gone down and the moon has come up, And long ago somebody left with the cup.
But he’s striving and driving and hugging the turns. And thinking of someone for whom he still burns.
Cause he’s going the distance. He’s going for speed. She’s all alone In her time of need.
Because he’s racing and pacing and plotting the course,
He’s fighting and biting and riding on his horse.
He’s racing and pacing and plotting the course,
He’s fighting and biting and riding on his horse.
He’s going the distance. He’s going for speed. He’s going the distance.
So to sum up… you can take away from this song and this blog what you will.. but I think the message here is simple. Life is short. Missed opportunities, and each small decision you make could dramatically affect your future. Don’t be like the poor sap in the song who’s “haunted by something he cannot define.” still “thinking of someone for whom he still burns”. Heed Toni’s zen words of wisdom. Find your Passion, live it and have no regrets.
Don’t be afraid to umm err.. go “the distance”.. recognize what the universe is telling you and follow the signs. Hell, why not follow your heart?
But choose your paths wisely.. because your job, money, car and all those pretty shiny gadgets won’t keep you warm at night. 

I know you’ve missed me. Bring it 2011. 🙂 Until next time. xoxo Toni

For more photos check out The Gallery: Cake: The Fillmore at Irving Plaza
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9 Comments to
“Let them eat CAKE! & Where I’ve been?”

  1. On January 24th, 2011 at 9:57 pm Eoin Nolan Says:

    Hi Toni, great to see your back at your blog, love it as ever…keep up the good work and keep on rockin’ hon..i just wish i could get to these gigs. best wishes xoxox mwah =)

  2. On January 28th, 2011 at 1:34 am Gill Says:

    Well, I wasn’t expecting to read something so thought-provoking and insightful! I think we all owe it to ourselves to take cognizance of our current position with life every now and again in order for us to fully realize all aspects so we can continue and/or redirect ourselves towards the pathway of our liking. It’s refreshing to read something so candidly written about actual feelings and honest human emotion. Thank you for sharing : )

  3. On January 28th, 2011 at 2:10 am Toni Says:

    @Eoin I am following my Bliss..
    @Gil I always try to follow my heart and speak from it as best I can…

  4. On February 7th, 2011 at 12:41 pm Pamela Says:

    Toni, you are my new therapist. Your insight & self eXploration is very enlightening. If you are having boy trouble then what chance do the rest of us have? You are awesome, rock on girl! Loved the review on Cake, I’ll have to check them out. 🙂

  5. On February 18th, 2011 at 8:36 am Toni Says:

    Pamela, So glad I could help! Keep reading. xo

  6. On March 3rd, 2011 at 8:10 am Marta Krolick Says:

    Really enjoyed this article.Really thank you! Fantastic.

  7. On March 16th, 2011 at 11:15 pm Toni Says:

    Your Welcome Marta! Glad you enjoyed it. Anytime. 🙂

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